Different person, same story
Your relationships start differently but somehow end the same way.
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I can see the pattern. Why can’t I stop it?
You keep ending up in the same spot. The same kind of partner, the same reaction, the same argument, just with a different person or a different topic.
You understand the pattern in your head. Changing it in the moment is a whole other thing. This is one of my favorite things to work on.
Is this you?
You react before you think
You know how you’ll respond, and you can’t seem to catch it in time.
Old family roles
Around certain people, you turn back into the version of yourself you were at 12.
Drawn to what hurts
The people you’re attracted to aren’t always the people who are good for you.
What we’ll work on
- Repeating relationship dynamics
- Reactions that feel automatic
- Family roles you’ve outgrown
- Fear of closeness or of being left
- Choosing different kinds of partners and friends
- Catching the pattern earlier
How I approach it
I remember things. I’ll notice your patterns, and I’ll probably remember what you told me three months ago, even if you don’t. That helps here, because patterns are easiest to see over time.
We’ll trace where a pattern came from and what it used to do for you. Most patterns started as a way to cope. Understanding that makes it easier to stop judging yourself and start choosing something different.
Then we practice catching it earlier: first after it happens, then while it’s happening, and eventually before it starts.
I hope you see your patterns and learn from your experiences.
How sessions work
- Virtual sessions on SimplePractice, a HIPAA-compliant telehealth platform.
- For Texas residents who are physically located in Texas at session time.
- For adults age 18 and older.
- Sessions are about 50–55 minutes.
- Individual sessions are $120; couples sessions are $150. Private pay only.
- Your first 15-minute consult is free.
Questions
How is this different from counseling for relationship issues?
Relationship issues often focus on one current relationship. Pattern work zooms out to what keeps repeating across relationships and situations.
Do we have to talk about my childhood?
Sometimes it helps to look back, but we won’t live there. The goal is to understand the pattern well enough to change it now.
Is this individual or couples therapy?
Individual. If you and a partner want to work on a pattern together, couples therapy might be a better fit.